Sometimes in life we meet people, make friendship with them and start to see or talk a lot to the persons. In some friendships the contacts are deep and the person might look at you highly and places you on a pedestal. Then something weird happens in the relation or friendship. It can get into a relationship where you can do almost anything, nasty, nice, bad, moody and the person will except everything from you. You are then officially the obsession of the friend.
What happens if the ties of this relationship are broken and the other party tries desperately to keep the contact? Many calls may follow, letters might arrive where is written "I forgive you because I love you". An obsession then can be the case why the person wants to stay into the relation or friendship. The person who is the victim of this obsession will have to cut all ties from that person. The person mostly has a personality disorder and might not even be aware of it. But continues to do everything and has many difficulties in leading a normal life or having social contact with others. The behaviour is different from normal and moodswings occur in many forms and ways. In 5 minutes the person can change from cheery and happy into a shouting monster. It creates a lot of tension and indeed a lot of stress, it can litteraly drive you crazy, or drive the person around them to become in stress and they might even be mentally abused by them.
There are 3 clusters here:
A. Strange and exentric
B. Over exaggeration, emotional and unconventional
C. Tensed behaviour and fears
The person I am talking about is the B, narcistic type, extreme feeling of how wonderful the person is, strong desire to hear how wonderful the person is, and very low capability in what the others feelings are. The start of if you meet them that they are charming and interesting, a person you would like to meet. But the longer the relation holds on the stronger the egocentric behaviour comes to surface, the person wants more and more and more. And control. The obstacl EGO makes them not easy to handle anymore because even the smallest event makes them feel hurted, they demand being treated like a queen or the best person in the world and are very weak for getting huge depression, which is shown with the moodswing. Give them someother they need or desire and hell breaks loose and they do the most crazy things you can think of.
They feel the best person in the world, most wanted for everything, but have no compassion or what ever looks like it, prio number 1 is them first then the rest. They are the greatest and the best, they fantasy of how good they are and express it every time they can, they are unique and think they should be treated like that, there need of admiration is huge, is full of the fact that they have more rights then others and come first always, others have to adapt to them, they are very manipulative and experts in lying and deceiving others, and will use any trick to get what they want and desire not matter what and no matter the damage they cause to others. They do not care for others, are not able to see what others might feel because it does not interest them at all, they hurt without taking responsibility for their actions, they are very jealous and this goes together with a lot of anger and rage. The person behaves extreme arrogant, feels superior, thinks he can do all above laws and rules and can get very upset and angry when others are not listening or do what they demand.
Those people are dangerous so my advise is to not get involved with them, I made that mistake with the person in Costa Rica who wants now to trade a piece of art for my mother. She is obsessed with my mother....... And in that obsessions she does everything she can. You name it, even destroy other's reputation or good name.
So be carefull. And note there will be a sequal in this one to.
Love and light,
Isabel